Spam detection software, running on the system "arwen.fcen.uba.ar", has identified this incoming email as possible spam. The original message has been attached to this so you can view it (if it isn't spam) or label similar future email. If you have any questions, see The administrator of that system for details. Content preview: About five months ago my husband of five years got drunk. I wish you all the best Lisa and you're in my prayers. I feel though that I'm pulling away from my husband, as if I can have no true respect for him. It sounds like he is dealing with some residual pain and anger as a result of you and his mother splitting up. He choked me and hit me. I feel this is disrespectful to my fiance. It also sounds like she is dealing with some deeper personal issues and could benefit from some individual counsel on her own, though dealing with her own issues has to be a choice she makes. I want to still see him, and I do see him for lunch and a movie occasionally. I am a survivor of sexual abuse. He should be expected to do the same for himself with AA and other groups at a minimum, or to even enter a de-tox program. If he isn't willing to make such necessary changes you both would be wise to seriously reconsider the marriage issue. Most of the time, while he is drinking, he says and does several things that really hurt me however the next day he doesn't remember. If he isn't willing to make such necessary changes you both would be wise to seriously reconsider the marriage issue. You said that you want to make the marriage work, but you can't do it alone Ashley. THE GREAT TEACHER INSPIRES. For instance, this could be done through a local support group, a pastoral relationship, a men's accountability group, etc. Thank you for any comments or insights you may have! He is always ready to help us find creative solutions to the problems of our hearts. Would that be worth it to you to work with someone that you both approved of? You both need some real professional help in the matter and I really encourage you to keep pushing for marriage counseling to help you two get a handle on the issue and sort things out. Traditional batterers' therapy consists of both individual therapy in conjunction with group based accountability therapy. If your wife is unable to comply and work things out on a mature manner you will be protecting yourself [...] Content analysis details: (5.1 points, 5.0 required) pts rule name description ---- ---------------------- -------------------------------------------------- 1.1 EXTRA_MPART_TYPE Header has extraneous Content-type:...type= entry 0.0 HTML_MESSAGE BODY: HTML included in message 0.0 BAYES_50 BODY: Bayesian spam probability is 40 to 60% [score: 0.4779] 2.0 RCVD_IN_SORBS_DUL RBL: SORBS: sent directly from dynamic IP address [81.215.208.37 listed in dnsbl.sorbs.net] 1.9 RCVD_IN_NJABL_DUL RBL: NJABL: dialup sender did non-local SMTP [81.215.208.37 listed in combined.njabl.org] The original message was not completely plain text, and may be unsafe to open with some email clients; in particular, it may contain a virus, or confirm that your address can receive spam. If you wish to view it, it may be safer to save it to a file and open it with an editor. -- Este mensaje ha sido analizado por MailScanner en busca de virus y otros contenidos peligrosos, y se considera que está limpio. Por consultas comuniquese con ccc@fcen.uba.ar